Stop Waiting for the Apology You’re Never Gonna Get

It’s amazing to me how people will literally hold on to grudges for years just to prove a point. At times, I have been “people”. I’m still a work in progress. Last week I ran across an interview with Dawn Robinson, one of the founding members of En Vogue. Chances are, if you’re under 30, you may not know who this group is. However, they are one of the most prolific girl groups of the 90s or probably period. Nonetheless, I digress.

I’m probably partial because Dawn was always my favorite one of the group. In the interview, she ranted about how the other members stood by while they got paid pennies per record (literally) and she eventually got kicked out of the group. The bitterness for an apology she never received was incredibly apparent. Ultimately, the group never got it together because some or all members failed to admit past faults.

Sound familiar? Although we may not be members of a world-famous singing group, athlete, or movie star, we can all relate to dealing with forgiveness. I’ve dealt with unforgiveness over the years and truthfully, there are many apologies I feel I’m owed. On the flip side, I’m sure there are many apologies others have waited for from me. Holding on to what you feel you’re “owed” is just like pouring acid on your soul. No one wants that.

Believe me, it’s easier said than done. I think for me, there was a turning point when I turned 35. It’s an interesting age…still young enough to learn and make a silly mistake or two. But also old enough to know what you will and won’t put up with….and know when to fold. I’m all about mental peace and clarity. I’ve found that most people or things have a way of weeding themselves out of your life on their own. For those things or people who don’t, it’s probably because we are holding on too tightly instead of letting go.

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